The Virtuous Woman’s Marriage (Part 1)

I recently posted about the Proverbial woman in Proverbs 31, and it has still been on my heart so I will be expounding on this passage bit by bit.

Personally I feel that I need a refresher course on things I’ve learned every so often, and this is one of those times. So as I’m diving back in I want to share with you what I’m learning and how I’m applying it personally. That is, after all, the theme of these ‘Coffee Break’ posts. I want you to have a little nugget of a lesson and encouragement in something you can apply all in the time it takes for you to read an article as you sit for a moment, perhaps on a break with coffee.

As I’m beginning in Proverbs 31, I’m going to take it a step at a time and bring something applicable out of each verse or group of verses.

Who can find a virtuous woman? for her price is far above rubies.

The heart of her husband doth safety trust in her, so that he shall have no need of spoil.

Proverbs 31:10-11

The husband:

Since this first verse addresses the perspective of the husband, I’d like to take a quick look at the role of the husband.

A virtuous woman recognizes that the husband is called by God to be the provider, and for her to be the help meet for him. (See 1 Timothy 5:8 and Genesis 2:15,18) A virtuous woman recognizes that her husband is the spiritual head of the home, and she the keeper of it. (See Titus 2:5 and Ephesians 5:23)

I will be using this biblical perspective as my default for the husband and wife relationship. If you have questions as to how things may look in your particular situation, feel free to ask in the comments section on each post or contact me through the contact form!

The trust:

A virtuous woman has her husband’s trust. Careful thought in spending, housekeeping, and good communication can create an atmosphere of trustworthiness. On the other hand impulsive spending, waste, laziness, and contentions can quickly cause doubt and fear to enter in to a relationship.

It is so good for a couple to be able to trust in each other, so essential for them to be on the same page. It is no wonder the first description in the passage is regarding trust!

I remember a time I wasn’t as trustworthy as I ought to have been. (And I can still improve that’s for sure.) Mainly my husband would be put in the position to have to constantly remind me to clean and cook and take care of certain things for the children. I was so constantly distracted with ‘me’ that I’d just ignore the things for ‘us’. I was wasting time. By wasting time, I was wasting HIS time. It took him longer to get ready for work, longer to eat or prepare meals, and so much longer to get anything done at all! I admit it was senseless, selfish, and immature. I thank God dealt with me using these verses, and I’ve been trying to live it ever since.

My issue was time, but some women waste income with impulsive buying, some waste material things by not taking care of them, and some waste their own God given calling as a mother and wife by neglecting their families. Think about where you may need to cut the waste! Trust me when I say that sacrifice in this area will only help you in the long run.

The point:

Today’s point is that a virtuous woman is trustworthy.

Today’s challenge is to cut the spoil/wastefulness. You could ask your husband if there’s anything in this area you can improve upon, or maybe something he’s been expressing to you is already coming to mind. Whatever the case, act on it today!

For me personally, I’ve found I need to trim down my time slots again! I am working on prioritizing things like reading the Bible more often and before I read from any other book every day. I also want to make sure when I’m on the internet it’s only for important and necessary things. I know that by doing this I will be able to actually see and be reminded of things that need to be done, because my eyes will be free.

Please share in the comments if this has helped you!